Cheers to Five Years

Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Shane and I are so excited to have just celebrated our fifth year of marriage.  I remember before we got married people would tell us all the time, "Marriage is the hardest thing you will ever do, but it is one of the greatest blessings you can experience".  Looking back on our five years together, we agree that that statement couldn't be more true.

This year has been particularly difficult in finding us.  It is partially what prompted the start of this blog.  We found ourselves struggling to determine who we are outside of who we thought we were going to be.  At this point in our lives, we imagined we would have a family.  That we would be moving in the direction of settling down and living out our life parenting little beings.  That however, hasn't been the case.

Walking through a quest for personal and spousal identity in a marriage can be difficult.  We have done it for years and we are not the same people we were when we started.  There comes a point in the journey when you begin to ask yourself, "What does my life look like if it doesn't reflect what I thought it was going to?"  This is where we we found ourselves this year.  Asking those questions, having the difficult conversations, taking time to decide what we really want and how we want to get there.

The result?  Quite possibly, the best year of our lives.

Learning to let go of plans and expectations - both that you set for yourself and ones that others set for you - opens the door to possibility.  Instead of living concerned about what we cannot control we are choosing to live everyday together embracing the unknown and loving each other every step of the way.


To celebrate our anniversary we decided to spend the evening at home enjoying a delicious steak dinner and little sentiments together.

I decorated our dining room table and bought a bottle of red wine.  We shared conversation over dinner about our time together and all of the dreams we have for the coming year. 

Shane is an incredible cook.  Something I have learned in our time together is that his dinner's are way better than mine.  He cooks and I clean - any day! 

He chose to prepare steak au poivre with a micro arugula salad and a black truffle oil drizzle.  SO GOOD.  I picked up the steaks fresh at Kroger and chose a lean filet.  The arugula is market fresh and the truffle oil you can find at World Market.  I am looking forward to learning how to use it in other dishes in the future.  Shane created a recipe sheet for us to keep for future use and a memory of the night.  

To everyone journeying through marriage - congratulations on your accomplishment.  Love really is a beautiful thing. 

Love is patient, love is kind. 
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, 
it keeps no record of wrongs. 
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7

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